I’ll be the first to admit… I love feeling like I’m in control. I also hate when things feel out of control. And the irony is… everything outside of us is out of our control. 

So then what gives? How do we find peace in the lack of control? 

In a world that often equates control with success, the concept of surrender might seem counterintuitive. However, research and personal testimonies increasingly highlight the profound power of letting go. Embracing surrender doesn’t signify weakness; rather, it can be our main source of immense strength and happiness.

I would’ve used to think this was poppykosh, but then I started to get curious, and found there’s a lot to support this new way of being. 

The Science Behind Letting Go

Studies in psychology and mental health reveal that the ability to let go of stress, grievances, and unattainable goals correlates strongly with improved mental well-being. One prominent study published in the *Journal of Happiness Studies* found that individuals who practiced acceptance and letting go experienced higher levels of life satisfaction and lower levels of psychological distress .

Furthermore, research indicates that surrendering control reduces anxiety and depression. A 2015 study by the University of California, Berkeley, demonstrated that acceptance and letting go are crucial components of emotional resilience. Participants who embraced these practices were less likely to suffer from anxiety and depression, exhibiting greater emotional stability and resilience in the face of life’s challenges .

Why Letting Go Leads to Happiness

1. **Reduction in Stress and Anxiety**: Holding onto stressors or attempting to control the uncontrollable can lead to chronic stress and anxiety. Letting go alleviates this burden, allowing for a more relaxed and peaceful state of mind. As a result, individuals can enjoy the present moment without the constant weight of worry.

2. **Enhanced Relationships**: Letting go of grudges and past grievances fosters healthier relationships. Forgiveness and acceptance pave the way for deeper connections and more meaningful interactions. Studies show that people who forgive and let go of past hurts tend to have more fulfilling and longer-lasting relationships .

3. **Increased Focus and Productivity**: By releasing unnecessary burdens, individuals can focus on what truly matters. This clarity enhances productivity and creativity, as mental resources are no longer consumed by futile attempts at control. The energy once spent on maintaining control can be redirected towards achieving personal and professional goals.

4. **Improved Physical Health**: Chronic stress and anxiety negatively impact physical health, contributing to conditions such as hypertension, heart disease, and weakened immune function. Letting go promotes relaxation and well-being, which in turn supports better physical health .

 Practical Steps to Embrace Surrender

In my own journey to find inner peace around letting go of control, I found the follow practices helped immensely to strengthen my “surrender muscles.” 

1. **Mindfulness and Meditation**: Practices such as mindfulness and meditation help cultivate a sense of acceptance and present-moment awareness. These practices train the mind to let go of unproductive thoughts and focus on the here and now.

2. **Journaling**: Writing about feelings and experiences can be a therapeutic way to process emotions and let go of negative thoughts. Journaling allows for reflection and provides a safe space to release pent-up emotions.

3. **Gratitude Practice**: Focusing on gratitude shifts attention away from what is lacking or uncontrollable, highlighting the positive aspects of life. Regularly practicing gratitude can foster a mindset of acceptance and contentment.

4. **Professional Support**: Seeking support from therapists or counselors can provide valuable tools and strategies for letting go. Professional guidance can help navigate complex emotions and develop healthier coping mechanisms.

 Conclusion

Surrendering is not about giving up; it’s about giving over and letting go of what no longer serves us and embracing the freedom that comes with acceptance. The power of surrender lies in its ability to reduce stress, enhance relationships, boost productivity, and improve overall health. By letting go, we open ourselves to a life of greater happiness, peace, and fulfillment.

Letting go may be challenging, but the rewards are immeasurable. Embrace the power of surrender and discover the profound joy that comes with truly letting go.

By integrating these practices and understanding the science behind them, we can begin to see the transformative effects of surrender in our own lives.

XO,

**References:**

1. Kotsou, I., & Leys, C. (2016). Acceptance: A key to happiness? Journal of Happiness Studies, 17(1), 137-155.

2. Shallcross, A. J., & Spruill, T. M. (2015). Letting go of feeling bad: Dispositional mindfulness predicts sustained recovery from depression. *Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology*, 83(6), 1036-1045.

3. Toussaint, L., Owen, A. D., & Cheadle, A. (2012). Forgive to live: Forgiveness, health, and longevity. *Journal of Behavioral Medicine*, 35(4), 374-386.

4. Sapolsky, R. M. (2004). Why Zebras Don’t Get Ulcers: The Acclaimed Guide to Stress, Stress-Related Diseases, and Coping. New York: Holt Paperbacks